I have a God given purpose in life...

I am re-reading Created to be his Help Meet, by Debi Pearl.  I don't agree with everything the Pearls say, but I LOVE their insight on child training and marriage!  I would recommend this book to almost every woman I know.  Today I was reading all about being sober as a wife.

To be sober:  To do one's duty, be moderate, self-controlled, thoughtful, and to learn to make wise decisions and judgments.

And wisdom and knowledge shall be the stability of thy times, and strength of salvation: the fear of the LORD is his treasure.  Isaiah 33:6 

Some things that really stuck out to me personally are...

PLAN AHEAD!

SIMPLIFY!

PLEASE MY HUBBY!

Traits of a good help meet

• A good help meet provides an oasis for her man.
• She fixes meals that please him; she does not cook to suit herself.
• She plans and prepares well ahead of time.
• She exercises self-discipline.

"As wives, our life's work should be to perfect how we may please our husbands."

"...resist taking offence, and never give our husbands a 'piece of our mind'."

(That's a VERY tough one for me!)

A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.  Proverbs 12:4

This was the "Getting Serious with God" part of the book.  A wonderful challenge for any Christian wife!

Think of an occasion in the recent past when you became angry or were hurt because your husband responded in a way that you felt was wrong.  Keep in mind that the other side of the coin of being angry is being hurt.  It is one and the same coin, and it buys the same results: a bad marriage and a strained relationship.  How different do you think the end of the struggle might have been if you had kept in you mind that your job was to please that man?  Write your own story.  First, write the one that ended in a big fight, and next, write the story as it should have ended.  Remember, he doesn't have to be right or kind for you to react in a godly way.  This exercise will help you see the rationale for honoring your husband in a different light.

"Your relationship with your husband is the single most important role you will ever play. If you fail here, then you have failed at your life's work and have missed God's perfect plan."

Are you married to a man who can be a rude, insensitive jerk? Two wrongs do NOT make a good marriage...

I pray this was a blessing to you as it has been for me.  I am very much in love with my husband, and I want a glorious marriage.  That will only come with God's help and hard work.  I cannot be my husbands 'Holy Spirit', all I can do is my best as a christian wife, mother and friend.  That means for me, putting aside hurt feelings and anger and choosing to do what is right in the Lord's eyes.  Will it be hard?  Most definitely.  Who said life was easy?! :)  I am so thankful for the bible, and Jesus coming and experiencing life as a man for me.  He now knows every emotion and trial known to man and can petition God the Father on our behalf.  I don't have to go through trials on my own, PRAISE BE TO GOD!